I think the real problem for people who don’t find shidduchim is that they aren’t amenable. I know many people who found rich, poor, good looking, not so good looking, healthy, not as healthy, etc. I also know some who didn’t find. Of the ones who didn’t find a lot of times they are not so open to the suggestions that people have and even if they agree to dates they are not seriously considering certain suggestions. I think that if people were more open to different suggestions and didn’t have a set idea in their mind that they need this specific type of guy/girl they would be much more successful in their goal. Where the boy and girl are holding when they marry is not as relevant as how they will develop together which will be different to either of the houses that they came from in many cases. People lose sight of this and reject many suggestions and thus never get married. By the time they agree to listen to those suggestions a lot of those people are already married.
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