Houses aren’t as expensive as people think. They just happen not to be in New York.
As DY would say, GD (Geographically (un)desirable).
No, I have just observed that the boys (or parents) are not turning down shidduchim based on such a long term financial picture.
DY, explain yourself. You have said time again that boys need to marry assuming they will be supported, and that the couple themselves will be unable to support (which is why you would need the parents to discuss support before they go out, and certainly before they get engaged). On the other hand, you’re telling me that the boy would be happy with a wife who is earning 30K in OT/PT/Speech (part time) or a teacher (if that much), which he could make himself if he so desired to work hard (even without a degree). What are these boys thinking?