You raise a good point. It should say ??”? [sic], because ???? refers to ???? being masculine, but ???? implies she is feminine. So correctly it should be either ???? ???? ????? or ???? ???? ?????. I have the same issue with the popular abbreviation used after a name ??”?, ????? ??? ?????. It should be ??”?.
and don’t start with me on taleisim, shabbosim etc.