Joseph, pretend for one second you were a ger from Nigeria.
You would feel comfortable being part of a chareidi community where no one would marry you. Viewed it that marrying you would be mechasser their kedusha, thought of you as lowly because you have no yichus and cant have authority etc…. Being part of a community that in your eyes would LITERALLY save your life last…..
You would be fine going to those same people for shabbos meals and constantly being surrounded by the happy families you would never be part of while having no family of your own?