Joseph, I was not advocating affirmative action. I was saying these people should be given fair consideration. I would marry Satmar (if she does not require a lot of chumros) or MO (if Halochically observant). Lubavitch and DL are questions of ideology. I never said there should be no hakpodos at all, Just some are invalid and harmful. And, Joe, remember Dinah bas Ya’akov!
A ben niddah? If he is a real ben niddah, it is a valid ta’anah.
Ashkenazi marrying only Ashkenazi? Not good. Look at the end of Ta’anis, the sugya of TU be’Av. Also, “Pele Yoetz”.
And, lastly, for sure, I would not want to marry a girl with your attitude!