I had to put this on hold for a few days, but I think that there will ALWAYS be more girls than boys (the female of the species is hardier than the male, even embryonically,according to my biology classes oh so many years ago), but the various dating styles tend to either hinder or help the girls who are available to be “out there” in the game, at least. If they are waiting for the shadchan to get back to them about whether or not this boy or that precious boy (or his mama) has finally agreed to be set up with her, then they are wasting time that could be better spent actually meeting young men of marriageable age. But they won’t – because that’s not how it is done in their circles. The girls who are proactive and at least going to places where frum young men are around, are seeing what is out there and are being seen, and are potentially able to meet someone suitable. That doesn’t mean that in EITHER group there will not be girls who just are not meeting guys, or that there are not too many females around. But it does kind of level the field when the girls are not merely waiting around doing nothing while the shadchan takes her time getting back to her or the boy’s family hasn’t made up its mind and they have a “list” of prospects waiting in the wings, which is essentially how the present shidduch system operates.
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