thank you neville for being the only person who seems to know the difference between disregarding information without disregarding the person giving it (in a way that turns my stomach. and the “who me?” that goes along with it is depressing).
Maybe when pesach is over and the yetzer hora lessens his grip on pushing us away from the potential kedusha of the yom, the atmosphere here will change. til then, I will find somewhere else to be.