“Your chinuch decisions should be thought out based on merit, not on what anyone else does.
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its kind of odd that you would pull that out of a paragraph (and thread) that Id think makes it clear that I do make decisions with thought.
and the irony of it all is that we have always been careful to mechanech on thought and merit, and not based on “well everyone does it” or “what would the neighbors think”. and expression of such views have earned me some very hurtful criticism questioning my Torah adherence from some of the self proclaimed resident CR mashgichim. So while it is the way it should be done, it is not without consequence.