Reply To: What Did He Gain?

i agree that musser is not always welcome and that it can do damage when someone is looking for a reason to run. IF i was going to say something to that boy, it might have been to ask him a question or two, or three…maybe four in the fashion of the Chofetz Chaim who tried to occupy the time of those who might be using it for bad speech otherwise. He would totally catch on to what you were doing, and possibly appreciate the subtle approach, and choose on his own to reciprocate or not. But you will have done your hishtadlus and not stood al dam re’echa, so to speak.