Re: chilling out. How about playing ball. What about eating lunch in yeshiva? Yeshivas no longer serve food to the bachurim who dorm? I’m sure they are not serving 5 star gourmet fare, but is it horrible?
I don’t care if you eat pizza, what I do care about is that if my son is in a yeshiva, the yeshiva takes some level of responsibility in keeping tabs on him at all time.