You were doubly hypocritical. First you judged that “whole community” that their divorces were necessary despite outright opining that “no one can judge whether or not the divorce was necessary.” A direct contradiction. Secondly, it is senseless to claim that no one can judge whether or not the divorce was necessary but then yourself to judge not only was it necessary but for you to go a step further and also judge who is to blame for the divorce. And for a whole community, to boot. And you’ve determined based on one sided stories (apparently combined with that some of them remarried while their exes had not yet) that the guilt lies in “99%” of the cases with one particular side. Of the whole community.
As stated, various gedolim “judged”, on a communal basis, that very many divorces were senseless and could and should have been avoided.
As far as the statistics are concerned, anyone with at least one eye on shidduchim for remarriages can tell you that there are many more divorced women still waiting for a shidduch than divorced men still waiting. (This point is also likely the case in the secular world, which could be verified with marriage records stats.) Another little tidbit of statistics is that divorces are sought in about 75% of the cases by the wife, not the husband. That can be verified by available court records, various available academic analysis based on said records as well as by butei dinim. You might also be aware that al pi halacha a Get need only be given if the husband desires to divorce unless it is proven with evidence in beis din that he is guilty of one of the rare violations that al pi halacha mandates he give it. The correlation of the latter statistic with this halacha may not be coincidental.
And “the slice of the population that [you] happen to know”, aside from being anecdotal, is very unrepresentitive even if we make the stretch of assuming your assumptions and judgement is correct.