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ATTENTION MY FELLOW B’NEI TORAH,
As a woman reading these letters and skimming through these comments , I cant resist but speak in our defense;
YES, tznius is very importand and it is the crown and glory of every Jew. However, did any of you men realize what a nisoyon this is for us? Do you know what it means to walk the streets in 90 degrees following the basic tzinius code, smeltering away in a sheitel(even if its a nice one), long sleeves etc? Stop hacking abnout the styles for heaven’s sakes.
The Torah says ‘Vchai Bohem’ we dont have to make our lives more difficult. Ofcourse a man cant fathom what its all about because they can comfortabley roll up their sleeves, walking around in short pants during vacation time is not the end of the world and their is no complete head covering which can give you terrible migraines in the heat.
Mi keamcho BNOS YISROEL??
Furthermore, what right do men have to inspect other women to the point where they realize there is a tznius problem?? Focus your attention on where its proper for you and try to understand that MOST FRUM WOMEN TRY THEIR BEST!!
As important as Tznius is, it is NOT one of the three Amudim, thousands of women dressed in the most modest manner didnt stop the Bais Hamikdosh from burning!!!
Why are people not critical about the lack of Ahavas Chinom? We are in the three weeks now, please lets concentrate on basic derech eretz.
There was an incident recently at a shtiebel which really shocked me.
A little boy ran out in the yard to play during ‘laining’ on Shabbos. Meanwhile , an elderly man noticed his seat was free and went to sit down. When the child came back and noticed that his seat was taken, he told the man that he was sitting in HIS seat. A minute later, the father of this little boy passed by and said’ Yes, reb yid, this is my boy’s seat, please find somewhere else to sit’
In my humble opinion, the lack of chinuch is a MAJOR issue people dont pay enough attention to. Lets put our priorities in order…