Reply To: Looks in shidduchim

Technical there are plenty of frum attractive girls who I’ve seen in my life who I found attractive I just never got set up with them. Everyone finds different people attractive. Just because you found more doesn’t mean I’m unrealistic. And why would u mind if girls see a picture of me before hand? I in general don’t believe in pictures and I actually have had shadchanim ask me for pictures and I’d gladly give them. And yes obviously music has something to do with attraction but it’s not part of the basic attraction that builds the foundation for a healthy husband wife relationship. And it’s in my opinion a serious violation of proper hishtadlus to demand your husband can sing. I haven’t gotten one word of reasonable advice. All I’ve gotten is hate for being in an extremely hard situation. I’m not unrealistic. Ive been around and dated and seen girls who are attractive so obviously they exist…