flatbusher:
“On a human level”.. what’s that?!? Mechila, emotions, feelings are exclusively for us humans. Furthermore – “..and al pi halacha I granted it..” What does that mean? Who FORCES you to be mochel?
The requirement to request Mechila is a means to somewhat lessen the pain, anguish, hurt. And if you’re not ready DON’T grant it yet. Mull over it, think it through, and if you’re ready with your whole heart grant it. Once you are mochel you cannot bear any ill feelings in your heart anymore. There were some greats who when asked for Mechila told the offender to come back in a few days to be able to think it through, to be able to grant Mechila with a full heart.
Asking Mechila is not a “kinder shpil”, a plaything. Gemarah says one who injured another, even after monetary compensation, is not forgiven until obtaining Mechila. So much more where no other compensation is involved. So much more where the hurt is in the the heart, the mind, ever ready for instant replay.
May you know of no more tzaar!