YW Moderator-29 – If one really wants to show the world they are Frum, calling Noshim by their married name is insufficient. To get your children to the top of the Shidduchim list, you need to start ripping off clothing (Al Pi the Gemorah Brachos 20a), and not calling Noshim by their last name either (using a last name also can show familiarity!!). Using the English term starting with a “W” and ending with “men” or “man” also shows a lack of Frumkeit, and will push your Isha child back on the Shidduch list.
Regarding your second point, I do not see the Rabbi who wrote that book having any qualifications or expertise regarding the subject matter. Therefore, it is no different than stam a guy who has Smicha (or not) writing a book.