I have a better idea. How about a balance is found between putting equal considerations on looks and personality and doing an FBI background check, and trying something a little out of the box?
Did you not read what I wrote, or are you just skimming? I wrote that I didn’t say that I don’t think looks aren’t important. I understand that they are important. What I said was basing the initial decision while your judgement is clouded based on looks is ridiculous. Obviously there is a difference between going out with someone who’s of average looks and someone who has something that makes them look unusual. I’m talking about someone who’s pretty. Yes, everyone has their own individual tastes, I’m not arguing that. But how many times have you heard people say, “I never thought I would marry someone that looked like that!” It happens more often then you think it does. When people are a little more open minded about looks, you’ll be surprised what you end up finding yourself attracted to.
So instead of learning anything from dating, let’s instead just slap together guys and girls, and make them marry each other, instead of letting people mature a little while dating. A guy or a girl on their very first date is not going to act the same as on their third or fourth first date. You don’t need to date a million people, but you can learn a lot about yourself, and what you’re looking for. Just because something makes sense on paper doesn’t mean it’s going to make sense when you actually meet someone.
Oh, and by the way, you’re little comment there about the premise of choosing friends the same way as a marriage because not being attracted to people is a recipe for ex-marriages? Can I flip that on you now and say that there are plenty of marriages where people are so enamored by looks that they don’t see the real person underneath and it ends up being a horror story? I personally know people that have gone through this. And don’t tell me that, “well, they were dumb.” No, they weren’t dumb. They placed an over emphasis on looks as opposed to anything else and were blinded and not able to see anything else.