Reply To: How to Deal with a Request for a Shidduch Picture

The Talmud says those who marry for money will have unworthy children. Money should not be any consideration in a shidduch.

See ??”? ???”? ??’ ?”? who says it’s fine, as long as she’s not ????? ??.

http://hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=44286&st=&pgnum=58&hilite=

This $400k dollar marriage startup, were you joking?

Yeah, I know, sounds very cheap for such a metzuyan, but as I explained, his father is wealthy.

As for the son of a Rosh Yeshiva, well… so what. You don’t know what favour a simple unassuming man has in the regard of Heaven.

Right, so since we have no idea either way, we might as go for kavod.

And I have seen women in mini pants asking when a meat dinner is because she had pizza for lunch.

I can assure you, that was NOT my great granddaughter!

The best to look for is not necessarily education but middos – does he offer hospitality, does he have anger inside him or is he quick to forgive?

Of course that’s also important! If you’d have read the entire thread, you’d have noticed that I mentioned that he has good middos. After all, what would people say if our great granddaughter married someone who didn’t?

And what’s this RUBBISH about showing off a pic to the family?!

Yes, we’re also against it, that’s why we sent the wrong picture. Tee hee.

And of course you give the dating man a pic of the lady. They swap pics of each other. That’s normal.

It may be normal for you, but it’s unacceptable in my family. Such superficiality! What do you think the Chofetz Chaim would say about that? Feh.