Yes I agree that there are a painful number of girls who don’t think for themselves and therefore marry whomever it seems hip to marry and then go on to raise another generation of non-thinkers. But, to those of us who think for ourselves and have some backbone in that spine of ours, we make a decision and are proud of it. and we don’t care what seminary rebbetzins think because we understand that not everything is for everyone and we have chosen what we believe to be the best for us. that goes for those who choose what the rebbetzins happen to be preaching as well. but we did not make this choice out of the lack of the use of our brain cells, we made this choice consciously.
And a side point, my sem rebbetzin would not consider a girl who marries a working boy any lower that one who marries a learner. Because she understands that not everyone is cut out for everything. SO its just a matter of picking the right seminary. which leads you to every other thread in this instant coffee coffeeroom.