This thread raises an interesting issue that kind of infuriates me, and I’ve seen it happen more than once. I have two friends who were in Yeshiva until their mid twenties, and then left to go to law school while they were still single. One was in yeshiva with me and was known to be a metzuyan. I got to know the other one later, but he got semichah before he left yeshiva and was moser nefesh to be midakdek in halacha while he was in law school in a God-forsaken town. Both were extremely bright and went to Ivy League law schools.
I attempted to redt them shidduchim several times. I heard from several girls’ families that although their daughter/sister was planning to marry someone who would work after a few years, they were interested only in someone learning full time. I urged them to be a bit more open, since these friends were accomplished masmidim who were well on their way to sufficient parnasah as well. But my suggestions fell on deaf ears.
I don’t know who most of the girls in question ended up marrying, but I know that at least one married a very nice boy who was still learning in BMG at the time they were engaged. He is a fine baal middos, though he wasn’t such a strong lamdan, and in fact was paying a yungerman to learn with him while he was in BMG. A year after the wedding, he was beginning to work in property management.
I have no complaint about the outcome – both of these friends have met their basherts and this girl undoubtedly is married to the husband who was right for her. But I am disgusted by the process, especially since it led her to reject a legitimate talmid chochom in the name of marrying someone who is still in yeshiva.