Mammele: ” If you’re too close to them to suggest it without risk to your relationship find someone else to do it. But don’t stall!”
There are 2 shidduchim that I spoke to several people trying to get it redt. No one wanted to do it, it is simply so way out of their comfort zone.
I feel very sorry for the singles in question and tried pursuing it several times. Read what the singles in this thread have to say, just about asking their age, and then please try to understand the point of view, of a queen who is quietly raising her children, minding her own business, and not looking to hurt anyone or make enemies.
I actually met one of the singles in question at a chasunah, and thought to myself, if I have an opening, I’ll take the plunge and mention the idea. But Miss single looked so vulnerable and fragile to me, I was afraid to bring it up and make her “miserabler”.
What do you think, singles want to be redt shidduchim everywhere they go? What if she goes home and cries into her pillow all night because she can’t even attend a cousin’s chasunah without encountering “yentas” ….
It is really a hard situation.