It could be just a girl trying to get an opinion as to what guys like on first dates. She is probably not sure what to wear so she is saying in this way to remain anonamous and get feedback as to what is more acceptable heels/flats. who knows maybe her date is on here too.. some people are just too afraid to admit what’s really going on.. I don’t think she is trying to “play on other people’s buttons”, I think she just simply wanted anonamous feedback..
May you be matzliach in whatever you do. may you make the right decisions, and hashem should look watch over you and look after you every step of your way! May you find your Zivug bekorov!! Amen!!
Don’t worry about all these people bashing you. they are only bashing you because of their own personal expiriences/opinions and they have nothing against you! trust me. Don’t take it all to heart and Don’t be hurt.
Yes in my opinion heels are much nicer, but it sometimes does feel auckward dressing to impress rather than dressing for occasion, I know how you feel. Depending on what your guy is like, if he’s not so into dressing up he will not be attracted to a girl that is all dolled up, and if that’s not the way you really are don’t do it. because you will just be giving him a faulse impression of who you really are. what’s going to happen when you take off the mask and become who you really are????!! chas veshalom he won’t be attracted anymore..
the best way is to project over who your best self really is. and then you can then decide whether you will be lifelong mates and based on what you both REALLY are. You should also be comfortable the way you are dressed, if you are not it is much harder to have the confidence to bring y=out who you really are.
Much hatzlocha in this! I hope you do well!!!!