oomis:
I think you are misjudging the nature of these lounges. I invite you to visit any of the popular NY dating lounges with your husband, order a couple of seltzers, watch the yeshivish dates, and judge for yourself if the venue is inappropriate.
Try the Marriott Marque, it is very popular. Sit both in the area up the escalators, and in the revolving lounge on top. (I know much better places to go, but I shan’t be spilling my secrets here.)