The system has been set up that boys end up in kollel if they want to get a good shidduch, regardless of their desire to sit and learn. I am sure there are others who have seen guys who really don’t come across as big learners but it’s kind of what is expected, and for those who choose a different path, they are looked down upon by girls who have been brainwashed in seminary that somehow they need to marry a guy who is learning.
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