Well, isn’t that the whole purpose of a Jew- to overcome (and BE’H change) his instincts?
We all have taavos, we all have thoughts and emotions that we probably shouldn’t, we all struggle with nisyonos. The question is if we’re just going to say “it’s not my fault, that’s just who I am” or if we’re going to work on it.
The need to “fit in” is natural and normal, and in many ways, it keeps society running. ????? ????? ??? ?? ???? ???? ????- that’s what it says in ???? ????. At the same time, it causes a lot of difficulty. People of all ages struggle with peer pressure, especially when it is in conflict with their values. The question is if we give in or stand up to it. ????? ???? ????? ????? ????? ???
Now, I’m not saying that buying a new wardrobe every season is necessarily the wrong thing to do. For me personally, it goes against my hashkafa and personal values. Each person has to evaluate what the price of fitting in is, and decide whether or not it fits in with his/her hashkafa.