Philly, is that what I said, only the first? Right now I have one named for each, and I said the first one named for my mother will get her ring. There is only one diamond ring. What will be in the future I don’t know, so please don’t jump to conclusions or put words in my mouth.
I have 3 married children. My daughter is the only one who chose to give names for family members both for our side and for her husbands side. Every child knows who they are named after and they are very proud of it. They have seen pictures and have heard stories of the family member whose names they share. My son who chose not to name for my husband’s mother, recently gave a name for my husband’s father because he is very proud of the family name. He will learn about his grandfather and he will get his grandfather’s things. His father already has his Pesach kiarah.
As far as kids doing things they don’t want to do, don’t we as parents wind up doing things WE don’t want to do? Don’t we always jump in to do things for our kids that our parents didn’t do for us because our kids want it, not necessarily need it, and we don’t necessarily want to do it, but they expect us to? Just asking. Shouldn’t our children be at least as generous when it comes to honoring our parents?