Do you know how much effort it takes for me to get ready for a date? For a guy, yes, you do have to rent a car and figure out where to go; I’m not minimizing the difficulty of that. But for a me, my family has to clean up the house, my father needs to miss a good part of his nightly shiur, I need to do my hair and makeup and spend 2-3+ hours of my night.
That’s not a reason to say no, that’s a bias. You implied earlier (in a post commiserating with Flatbusher) that you don’t have as many opportunities to go out as you’d like. So when you do, don’t let the difficulty get in the way of giving it every possible chance.
If I did it once and there is no legitimate chance of the shidduch working out, what is the tachlis in going out a second time?
Agreed. I’m questioning someone’s ability to properly definitively assess that after one date.
I’ve seen more than one occasion where that assessment turned out to be wrong.