This is a funny topic. Can I add my perutah?
Why haven’t I been successful in meeting ladies say past five years here in Sydney?
Because only ONE matchmaker has thought to ask me what I am looking for in a wife!
The other dozen just matched me what THEY thought would be suitable. I mean, if people don’t bother to ask what is important to me, of course it doesn’t work out.
However, the main matter to consider, ultimately, we have the baggage of our past life to rectify. Only they don’t teach you that in school. You waste time with computer games and tv. Then you turn 30 and wake up, the chitzonim have been dragging you back and hey! gotta fix yourself but now you are late in life and the load is heavy.
Even better, most of the known tzaddikim have passed on in tne 80s and 90s and we are an orphan generation without our grandfathers, surrounded by iphones and shmiras einayim and expected to not stumble.
And I say, it’s not ok. It’s not ok that my young generation doesn’t have the Rebbe or Rav Segal of Manchester or the Baba Sali to advise us.