apushatayid- who says that most 18- or 19-year-old girls will listen to what their parents tell them about what their seminary says?
Also, which parents of 18- or 19-year-old girls ask them what they learned in school every day? Seems to me that that’s a bit of micromanagement…
I think that seminary girls need to be allowed to be seminary girls, and post-seminary girls need to be allowed to be post-seminary girls. They will often go way too far in believing every word their seminary teachers say. That’s why I waited a full year after seminary before I started shidduchim; I needed to come back to earth and balance what my teachers told me with who I am, and figure out what is healthy and balanced for me- independent of what anyone else wanted or expected me to be.