Joseph- I meant that girls do sometimes take things that their seminaries tell them VERY literally, and they are likely to say no more quickly than they probably should have because of it. That’s why I said that this is more likely to be what the seminary told their girls, rather than actually telling them to say no if he’s not exactly what you’re looking for.
By the same token, when I have said no after a date, it has almost always been mutual (even-or maybe especially-a first date). I’m not saying that I won’t give it a chance; I have had boys where I felt no particular connection, but went out a 2nd time if we were able to find things to talk about on the date. I’ve also had an experience where the 1st date wasn’t anything special, but I had a much better 2nd and 3rd date. This is only if there is something to talk about, though.
All I’m saying is that there is such a thing as knowing after one date that the boy is not for you.