A Woman Outside Brooklyn-
As a girl in shidduchim, I have to disagree with you. There are times where I get into the car and after 5 minutes, I can tell that there is no connection whatsoever. I think that thousands of girls out there will agree with me. I have mentors/teachers whom I speak to when I date, and I have never been told that I was unjustified in saying no after the first date.
Sometimes, everything looks good on paper, but two people just don’t click- and it could be immediately evident.