Reply To: Are the girls causing their own shidduch crisis??

There is no reason for you to put blame on the girls.There is absolutely nothing wrong with a girl saying she wants someone with a plan or saying she wants a more serious learner..the same way a boy can say what hes looking so can a girl.Girls are clearly the disadvantaged ones in the shidduch system and need to be open minded as it is..dont make it any worse. And I do agree with you that there is nothing wrong with a shadchan charging to meet with someone. However, the shadchan should actually show what work is being done for her..so she doesn’t just think she payed for no reason when she doesn’t hear back