Ah, but Reb Wolf, in this case the primary consideration is what Hillel said:
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No, I don’t believe it is. I don’t believe that everything that I don’t tell my wife is something that is something that is in the nature of a nisayon. Somethings are just private to me, that’s it. Other things are of a confidential nature that have nothing to do with her and are none of her business. I respect her privacy and she respects mine. I trust her and she trusts me — and that works for us for a quarter century. Anyone who is happily married for a quarter century is clearly doing something right regarding how their relationship works. So, since this works for us, I’m not changing it. And if something else works for another couple… then all the more power to them. I wouldn’t presume to say that just because it works for me, they must do likewise.
The Wolf