It is true many times tough love works, but many times it not only fails , it backfires.
Tough love only works if the person receiving the tough love decides at some point they need the love and validation of the person giving the tough love. if the person who got the tough love decides they dont need the person who gave the tough love, it fails. and if the person who got the tough love thrives or believes he is more successful than the giver , it backfires.
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