ZD – i have to disagree with you here. whether or not they are ignoring big issues, this is more than a big issue. when people present themselves as frum, learned people, and then start making changes and adjustments to halacha it is very, very dangerous for us. When someone not affiliated accepts gay marriage, it does not influence your thought or action. But when this movement appears to be following halacha and they start accepting things that are NOT sanctioned by halacha it needs to be denounced as it can lead people astray. Which we even see by the support here.
I think this issue is one of the biggest problems i have had with the CR since i began. I heard so many awful comments about rabbis and jews without having a clue why it would be acceptable to do so. Someone finally explained to me the concept i just summarized above and i understood just from my own response how easy it is to validate people who are corroding halacha. Unfortunately, the people doing the “pushing away” are not always careful about giving over the L’shem Shamayim-ness of their words and there is no doubt their message is largely lost among those people who they think they may be protecting.
Witnessing mud slinging by yeshivish people at OO leaders just looks like a fulfillment of a stereotype. It would be helpful and much more productive as a defense of halacha if it was expressed that way, denounced in relation to the concepts being supported and with less letzanus and more pride for genuine halacha.
I am sure those who do it will have a hundred sources to support their style, but I think it is doing damage to those who wish to preserve the dignity of Torah and it’s supporters.