Syag that last line was a peirush on what we say before going to bed. Which refers primarily to things someone did or words they said that antagonized or angered you or you perceived as a slight to your honor and the like, even if done unintentionally.
Where indeed the makpidness of the offended could be a problem for the perpetrator, if the offense was carried out because the offender wasn’t sensitive or careful enough.
My second post was directed towards the situation mentioned in your response to my first post.
But indeed how and why and in what circumstances these “rules” apply are certainly far beyond my comprehension.
I just try, as I know you do, to understand what I can at my level, to guide me towards trying to serve Hashem as best I can.