Joseph, syag
No one says it’s easy.
Every night before we go to bed we give mechila to EVERY Yid, and we cover all cases, even if it happened in a previous life, and we make no mention of their remorse or lack of it. It is completely unilateral.
And we say let no one be punished on my behalf. We try to do this with a full heart.
Do you want to be responsible for Hashem “being forced” to punish his beloved child because you are makpid?