to tzippy,
by your standards , the following would be eliminated as a possible shidduch:
1. Avrohom – a baal tshuva who worked in the family idol business
2. Yitzchok – His half brother was Yishmael
3. Yaakov- Just one look at his twin Esav would have eliminated him
4. Moshe Rabeinu- Not only didn’t he sit and learn, he grew up in the
ultimate place of moral corruption, Pharoah’s palace ( and had an
Egyptian name, Moshe )
5. Rivka, Rachel and Leah – sister and daughters of an out and out
rasha.
Once a person is an adult, and his/her personality and character have been formed, judge them as themselves, not a reflection of their relatives.