see, joseph, that is where you are making false assumptions. it is true that feminism is saying that there are no men’s or women’s jobs, but it is not true that this has any connection whatsoever to that.
I agree that in Egypt we were tortured thru being given the other gender’s work. You are the only one who has decided he knows, moshe mi sinai, what work belongs to who. The partnershp we were talking about has no shaichus either. It doesn’t mean cooking is a partnership, it means that if the husband is home from 1-3 and from 6-8 everyday, but the women works until 6:30 (supporting him in kollel), why would he not WANT to make supper? Does she have a chiyuv? Maybe it is her “job” but as partners who share in each others burdens he may have decided on his own that he will prepare dinner. I don’t know if you have ever had serious morning sickness while nursing a baby and caring for toddlers but I have, for many years, and taking out the garbage would not even be on the list of physical possibilities. Should we hire someone or insist that i take it out anyway? That is what we talk about when we say partnership.
I agree with you completely that men should be filling male roles and females the female roles, (I would be ecstatic to quit my job and stay home doing laundry) but Gd has also commanded certain levels of honor and respect between human beings and people who work together sometimes share burdens.