yes, i said that if you are more worried about yourself than the class you are teaching – which means that you are not willing to
A) do some kind of cheshbon to stay til june
B)CHOOSE A DIFFERENT JOB
It has NOTHING to do with whether or not you get married. the selfish is on the priority, not the marriage.
regarding it’s all about shidduchim. to heck with the kids…:
again (and again?) if you use this line to excuse yourself from needing to PLAN BETTER so that you can get married AND finish the year, than you have messed up sense of commitment.
you may just have to stop trying to change it to something else. marriage is a very high priority, but only someone with a sense of responsibility deserves a teaching position. Your attempt to indicate that my being concerned for the childrens well being indicates a lack of priority toward marriage is twisted and wrong. you seem to be indicating that as long as you are doing something important, the kids can be left to chaos and i am saying that marriage IS a priority and the children ALSO ARE a priority and there is NO reason in the world that both cant be considered top.
and the comment about an illness in the family is a red herring. who in the world plans for that in august. seriously, the whole point of this thread was about making decisions in august based on your plans for the year and how expendable you consider the children in relation to your plans.