DY and feivel: So I guess that is our point of disagreement. I see no difference in attempting to change Ikkar HaDin L’kula or L’chumra. I think both are perversions of the Halachic process. I think attempting to figure out “what Hashem wants” on top of the Halacha is a code for ignoring the Mesorah and using personal feelings to change “what Hashem wants”. You see, I think Hashem told us what He wants and didn’t leave it for us to change.
The concept of “Kadesh Es Atzm’cha B’mutar Lach” is a personal statement, not a public one. Because once you’ve made it public, you’ve changed the religion.