Feivel, thank you. Of course being machmjr and being meikil aren’t the same. I don’t know what Sam is thinking.
Mdd, no one is exhorting anyone to engage in general prishus. As has been mentioned, the thrust of the responses to the OP (??????) is to defend those who follow the ikkar din, and don’t shower. This is one particular area, aveilus for the churban, which is being discussed, and as R’ Shlomo Zalman says (based on a gemara in Taanis, ???? ??? ??? ???????.