DY, as far as Yehareig V’al Yaavor is concerned hirhurim is more stringent than derech chiba- not less. We say since its not derech chiba, there wont be hirhurim, and it therefor mutar.
“Even if ou are right its not yehareg val yaavar according to him.”
Exactly, which would make the halacha change when kavod habriyos or chesron kiss is involved.
Im not saying you can shake a woman’s hand. I am saying its not Yehareig V’al Yaavor unless you are neheneh bkiruv basar.