embarrassing confession (even more embarrassing knowing how many posters know who I am) that I hope helps –
This in NO way justifies the end result but one of my boys kept on asking me for thank you cards after his bar mitzvah and I couldn’t afford either the cards, or the stamps. He was too embarrassed to write it on regular paper (I don’t blame him) and I never quite meant to NOT do it, just meant to “do it soon”. I was wrong, but I wanted to put it out thereif it helps someone be more empathetic. . .