C’mon people, I think chaimt meant it sincerely.
Does the guy goes to pick up the girl?
Most of the time yes. Sometimes in Israel, or if the girl lives out of town, the couple agrees to meet at a hotel or coffee shop. In Israel this sometimes can be pretty funny when there is more than one couple who agree to meet at a certain time. In US there aren’t many guys in full suits and cowboy hats or girls wearing too much makeup in middle of the daytime anyway, so its not hard to spot each other 🙂
Does he go in?
If she lives at home, yes. If she dorms, call and she will come out (make sure to have the car door open for her so she does not feel like she is being picked up in a taxi).
How long do the parents talk to him for?
3-15 minutes, usually about learning/college/job.
How should he act during the date?
Be kind and chivalrous. Ask questions that don’t have yes/no answers, and when she asks you a question, ask her a question of a similar vein back. My tip is RASA – Receive (listen to her), Appreciate (respond as she is speaking with facial expressions or expressions like “wow,” “hmmm'” “ahhh,” “I hear,” “oh my!”….), Summarize (retell her story back, adding in your impression), Ask (ask her something about her story, it might be something simple, or will help you understand her). If you really don’t care… You are NORMAL. Pretend you are hired to write a book about the person you are dating. And you want to know all about their life. As the dates progress you move deeper into their world, and they delve in yours and you build a relationship.