Kollel wife,I’m completely with you. I personally wanted to tear kriya in mourning when I heard the news.
I called the person whom I like to ask for advice, and she told me to remember that this is not us.
From Avraham, who was me’eiver from the rest of the world, we Jews have always been separate from the nations of the world, and this is just a reminder that our moral values are not the same.
We have to just continue doing our shlichut in this world, doing what Hashem wants us to do in whatever situation He puts us in.