so here are some of the tips we have considered in order to make the wedding more affordable.
1) many people will invite a core of people for the meal, and many other people to join for the dancing (simchas chosson v’kallah). We were actually thinking of just sending “please join us for dancing” cards to the entire list.
2) we will send out invitations announcing a 5:00 kabalas ponim but the wedding will really start at 1 so everyone will get there just in time for dancing.
3) check the community calendar for a day that you know nobody will be available or when someone extremely wealthy and influential is having a wedding in a city out of town.
4) get in arguments with lots of our friends so that we don’t really have anyone to invite.