While i am NOT someone who asks for community funds EVEN THO i don’t make ends meet, I still dont agree that you can be so harsh toward those who are WANTING to help. Not everyone who asks for help is begging, and not everyone who gives help did so against their will.
If someone chooses to help (example, gives to a Chossan/Kallah fund), that is recognizing that the times require more than what is really needed. Those funds can then distribute as they see fit (which I personally disagree with, but do agree that it is still a mitzvah to help).
My point is more that it shouldn’t be this way, and funding the system only exacerbates the problem. When we ask why weddings are so expensive, and why everyone needs so much to get married, we need only to look in the mirror.
P.S. This is my general shittah, which is that Halacha (read: SA) requires almost all of the popular “Tzedakos” out there to be pushed aside in favor of funding local Yeshivos which children attend. I can reflect that in my own giving, but understand there are others who have asked Shailos of their Rov and understand differently. It is not specific to people asking/begging for weddings, Kollels, or Chai Rotel Mashke 🙂 (or anything else).