As far as women driving or not in Chasidic communities, its no ones business. Who’s pointing the gun at you or your wife and telling her not to drive? If you don’t belong to that Chasidus , you can choose who you listen to.
Then take your own advice and dont tell the more modern communities how to act either, It goes both ways. If one feels they must give chizuk to the more modern commuities , you must expect the more modern communties to give it back when they see something wrong
The Supermarket in the shopping center by entrance to KJ to not massive at all, its a similar size to ones in Brooklyn. Supermarkets in Brooklyn arent that big. There is a Stop and Shop (or maybe walbaums) (I think) across the street (or near) woodbury common , that is what I would call a massive supermarket