Flatbusher, I have no idea where you got the notion that mothers of guys want thin beautiful daughters-in-law and guys just don’t care. There is a lot of misinformation floating around about shidduchim but so far I personally have not heard anything less real.
Let me assure you that the pleasant Middos of my daughter-in-law have brought a smile to my face and my heart on far more occasions than their pleasant appearances (though they are not lacking in that area either). And I know I’m not at all alone in this mindset. The classic picture of the snarling nefarious mother of boys belongs, as far as I can tell, in the fairy tale, sipping poisoned mushroom tea with Cinderella’s wicked stepmother. (I know some wonderful stepmothers.)
You are completely misinformed. About guys too, by the way, not just about their mothers…
On a different note, I was very disturbed to read nishtdayng’s reply to Health. Mr nishdayn, perhaps you meant no offense, but I took offense and am worried that most likely Health did as well. To imply that there’s an underlying reason outside of his disability for his lack of success in shidduchim, without knowing him personally, is very wrong.
And to you Health, I think it’s very sad but true that many (if not most) people are reluctant to look past a disability when looking for a husband or wife. But there are also many guys who won’t consider giving a girl a chance if she’s a little overweight. And girls who are obsessed with height and other nonsense. And I do know people with disabilities, girls who are heavy, guys who are extremely short- who are married. The bottom line is always HKBH, Who can bring about circumstances that, with our limited minds, we just can’t imagine.