Oomis: I don’t think this should be the place for you to hock against Rabbonim. In your particular case, I could well understand this Rov’s retort. Why should a frum woman put herself into such a position of danger. (Sounds like a sound advice, why look for problems!) But I’m sure he went further and delved into, dealt with the issue at hand. He didn’t just walk out. Am I wrong?
And as a general rule we are (as per Chafetz Chaim) supposed to give a Rov the benefit of the doubt MORE than a regular person. So a person off the street will be more, much more inclined to give his own biased opinion.